Problem Gambling

[Vanquish]

I know someone who has a very bad gambling problem. He's convinced there's a system to the lottery and scratch tickets and slot machines and everything, and that if he can just break the code he'll be a millionaire. Problem is, he's had this gambling problem for more than 25 years now, and it's costing him and his family $1000 a month. It causes him to be short with his family, beg for money in outlandish ways (charging his 17 year old son 200 a month room and board, charging his wife 200 dollars gas for driving her to work every money, charging his sister 60 bucks for driving her to the grocery store, etc). He exploits the people around him to support bad habit.

It's my gf's father, he's an asshole, but I don't want to stir up shit because he'll just take it out on her. He's charging her $560 a month, making her pay for his van and gas. It's pathetic. I want to strangle him.

[Magus]

How old is she? I'd suggest she move out, then schedule an intervention. There are plenty of programs for addicted gamblers out there.

[Thrash]

Considering this is your 2nd thread concerning a problem about someone in your girlfriends life, is she worth this trouble?

[Nine]

Considering this is your 2nd thread concerning a problem about someone in your girlfriends life, is she worth this trouble?It's hardly her fault..

[Thrash]

True.

[SkullSav]

well im glad that comment was thought out ..

[Thrash]

It wasn't.

[Nappie]

sounsd terrible but it wont just fix itself. i dont kno if its your place but the people that are around this need to do an intervention like said above. im sorry :(

[Vanquish]

Considering this is your 2nd thread concerning a problem about someone in your girlfriends life, is she worth this trouble?

Quite simply put, yes, she is. I've been with her for 7 months now, and so far as I can tell it's going to last far far longer than that, potentially the rest of our lives. She's not like her father at all. Noone can stand him, noone respects him, but the fact remains that he is her father. She's going to be moving in with me to get her away from the trouble, but there's little more we can do than that. He's been doing it for more than 25 years like I said. He's got a few brief cases full of old lottery tickets that he saves. He's like Russel Crowe from A Beautiful Mind, he draws lines and finds patterns in the lottery; the numbers he played, the numbers that were picked, etc. He's convinced he'll crack the code and noone can tell him differently. 3 of his kids don't want anything to do with him anymore because of the shit he's pulled. He's had everyone say something to him, family members have disowned him. If that doesn't work I don't know how an intervention will.

But yeah, I didn't exactly come on here looking for advice or anything, it was mainly just to vent and hear about others experiences with problem gamblers.

[Nine]

Sounds like you should thank him for driving her away from him and closer to you.

[Toastie]

air ball... its only a matter of time b4 he hits you up for money, reverse the door knobs locking the doors, board up the windows, take out all the lights, and drill a 2mm hole in the ceiling.

[|2on]

while we're on the topic of gambling, i just want to atlantic city for the first time today and spent 25 dollars on slots and video poker. Then i left. (we were already seeing a movie in the Tropicana IMax theater, so we stopped at the slots) so i just broke my casino gambling virginity so i had to brag about it on the internet.

[AntioK]

AC is a lot-o-fun.


As far as gambling gos, the guy sounds like a scumbag and i have no idea how you deal with somebody like that....besides an intervention.


From my own personal experience in the gambling world, i can see how its very easy to get addicted to the rush you feel when you have money riding on a game or a roulette table or whatever.

I've been to the highest of highs winning a couple grand in a week and the lowest of lows where i've taken out a loan from my parents to pay my debt so my fingers and kneecaps would still work.

After you hit a low, like i did, its pretty easy not to do it again....this guy sounds like he has sunk to a low i didnt know existed, how the hell does his wife put up with this?



A similar story i heard before, a girl from my neighborhood whom i went to gradeschool with, her father bet the deed to his house and lost, and she had to move.....pretty wreckless shit.

[FluxCapacitor]

I sold lottery tickets in my families video store, there are many people like him. They dont understand that the little serial codes and shit are not some form of code, but just a serial code used to keep track in a system. Most of the people who think there are codes in the litteries are pretty dimwitted.


How old is she to be charged 560 a month and NOT get her own place for the same or better price? If you say 16 and you are talking about the rest of your life and whatnot I am going to e-smack you.

[|2on]

one time i was at the horse track in Deleware, Deleware park i think it's called, and my friends bet on some horses, and some lady next to us after the race was like "there goes my mortgage" and just threw her tickets in the air, and walked away. It was funny, however i think it's pretty shitty how ppl get addicted, and yeah i can see how it happens :\ sucks man.GL.

[Magus]

I'll ask again, how old is she? Is she the youngest of his children?

[Vanquish]

We're both 20. She'll be 21 in June, me in September. She's not the oldest or the youngest, she's got 2 older brothers (25 and 22), a twin brother, and 3 younger brothers (twins at 17, and a 9 year old). We've seen this coming for months now, but she's anxious about moving out and cutting ties from her father because she knows he'll just bad mouth her to her siblings. They all understand, but she still doesn't like the idea of being cut off from her brothers.

We could easily afford to get out on our own, but it would only be temporary as we're both going to university this fall. What we'll be doing is living with my family for the time being, getting enough work hours to collect Employment Insurance while we go to school in the fall, and finding a house with a basement that can be turned into an apartment to live in during that time. We're living in 3 bedroom apartment now, but it has lots of stairs. My mother's got MS and can barely pull herself up the stairs with a bag of groceries in her hands, so we've been approved to find a new house with a main-floor bedroom, subsidized by a government agency for disabled people of one sort or another. We'll be picking a place with a basement that can be turned into an apartment for my gf and I to rent while we're in school. Don't see this is us mooching off my parents (although I know it's what it looks like), my parents actually asked us to stay so we could help them out with the bills (they just came through bankruptcy a year ago and are trying to build their credit up again), just like they did my older brother (he's 23).

[Magus]

lol so this has happened before and she's 20, i'd say your decision is made for you.

[Vanquish]

lol so this has happened before and she's 20, i'd say your decision is made for you.

It was just a matter of time. We were hoping it wouldn't come up so fast, but he's been asking for more and more money from her lately. It's to the point where she's working for free and he's taking her entire pay cheque, he feels he's 'entitled' to it because he's her father and kids should support their parents. I agree with him to a point, but that doesn't include taking advantage of your loved ones to support your bad habits.

[polarity]

Maybe I'm not a nice child because I would have told him to fuck himself and bailed already. He sounds like a remorseless piece of shit and he deserves to have everyone in his life leave him alone and out in the cold. Maybe that would be enough of a low to show him how bad his problem his.

[Magus]

well when you know someone is sick you want to help them pol. He seems beyond hope, though, and really, if I'm Vanq, I think about having this fuckhole in my life from here on out. If she stays attached, then you do.

My brother's wife has a mom you wouldn't believe, she used to sit outside of our house for like up to 24 hours, threatening to kill herself by swallowing a bunch of pills. I've personally had to drive her to the clinic at least 5 times, I'm sure my bro's done it much more. It's not a pleasant thing to deal with, and something you might have to consider when it comes to marrying this girl.

[dys]

Offer to buy his house in cash for $2000 + 2 scratch offs

[Yesbama]

Offer to buy his house in cash for $2000 + 2 scratch offs

perfect lol

[Vanquish]

Offer to buy his house in cash for $2000 + 2 scratch offs
Would, but he already lost it gambling about a year ago.

[Vr_]

intervention.


seriously =[